Birth Affirmations For Dad – 10 Things I Wanted To Hear During Labor

This is more of a for-fun post, but hopefully useful for some women too! πŸ™‚

We never know how labor is going to go. It is truly an exciting, thrilling and awe-inspiring journey.

After my first labor, I realized the important role that encouraging words had played in by birthing experience. I am convinced that they helped my labor to progress and to go well overall. I had been laboring for about 12 hours, during which time I had been having ongoing contractions every 1 to 3 minutes, when at one point my midwife said to me “I wouldn’t be able to do what you’re doing”… (hmm.. I’m not too sure about this as she has 4 kids πŸ™‚ !.. but I believe she was encouraging me, and helping me to connect to my inner strength by making me feel like a “tough guy”.) There was also the staff in the room who literally cheered me on as I was pushing, I felt so supported!

So when my second pregnancy came around, I prepared my partner, months in advance, he was warned:Β  there would be a list.

A list of things I wanted to hear during labor, and that he would have to say to me! πŸ˜‰

Even if he didn’t think them, I essentially made him say them! Honestly, it was lovely to hear, and definitely made me feel, and know, that he was there for me. My second labor was so short however, that he only got a few of the phrases in, but these moments actually remain as truly beautiful memories from that labor.

Note: you may end up not wanting to hear anything at all! But at least he’ll be ready.

(If you’re feeling unsure about how to support someone during labor, here is a very useful article that gives excellent advice to untrained birth support people:

Birth affirmations for dad:












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I’ve put together a Birth Preparation eBook with what ended up being the most useful resources in both of my birthing experiences in helping me to prepare for birth.

aboutbw2Hi! I’m Myriam, a former dancer turned yoga teacher based in Montreal. I’m also mama to two unbearably beautiful little ones, ages 1 and 4. I believe in the virtues of bringing breath and body awareness as well as humor and loving-kindness to new mamas, and mamas-to-be. Read moreβ†’

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2 thoughts on “Birth Affirmations For Dad – 10 Things I Wanted To Hear During Labor

  1. This is so true. I feel like my partner froze during birth. It’s very hazy but I don’t remember anyone really talking to me much and I felt like something might be wrong. Reading your statements, it feels like he could’ve used some type of coaching beforehand. Whether it be a list of comments or just a good talk about my needs. Since it was my first, I had no idea what I would need. I ended up with a c-section though and to calm me down, I asked him to sing me a song during the operation. He sang me a lullaby that we’d been listening to for our baby. It totally calmed me. When our son came out, he was crying and my husband went up to him and sang him the same song and the baby stopped crying and focused on him. Everyone in the operating room stopped what they were doing and commented about how that was beautiful. I’ll always remember that moment, erasing any feelings of negativity during the labour. I tell my son this story all the time now and sing him this song.

    1. What a beautiful story, Isabella, thank you so much for sharing it! I too had these feelings of, “something must be wrong” during my first labor. The pain was so powerful that I thought this can’t be right! The midwives present were leaving me to be in my bubble, to go into the birthing process intuitively, but I actually needed a bit of reassurance. Once I did receive encouraging words, this allowed me to let go of the feelings of fear. (I am mentioning this very thought in an upcoming post.) My second labor went so fast that nobody hardly had the chance to say anything, but I was still open to hearing positive words. πŸ™‚ I needed support, but not all women will! Some of us will need to be left to birth with no words. We are all different, birth is so powerful, and what is needed for each one of us will be as different as we all are. Here’s to having tools, ready to use if we need them!

      Thank you for sharing, what a beautiful birth story your son has πŸ™‚ .

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